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"Jude is the Warmest Color: A Eulogy
I genuinely can’t imagine how different my life would be today if Jude had never been a part of it. I most definitely wouldn't have achieved what I have, crawled my way to where I am today. He believed in me, in what I was capable of, long before others did -- before getting sober, before showing any promise, before seeing my own potential. Over the last incredible decade as my best friend, Jude showed me how to be headstrong, how to live fearlessly in my own skin, and how to communicate transparently with the people I care about. He not only showed me how to be resilient, but how to be a fighter: to fight fervently for what I believe in, for whatever I want to achieve in life regardless of the odds, and for the people I love. Jude stood by me when others wouldn’t, exposing me firsthand to the value of sticking up for those I care about, of advocating for myself and my needs; he kept me safe, he taught me how to keep myself safe. While we were waiting in line to enter a concert hall one night, I accidentally smacked some drunk guy due to an arm-related motor tic. He proceeded to yell at me and then raised a fist, when out of nowhere I see Jude’s neon blue hair flying passed me as he kicks this guy in the stomach screaming, “He has Tourette’s you bitch!” That moment captures two of the many things I respected most about Jude: unyielding courage and unrelenting care for those he loved, qualities you can’t find in just anyone. Most importantly, Jude had the exceptional ability to make a family wherever he went, he brought people together. Jude was extraordinary, unlike anyone I’ve ever known, unlike anyone I ever will know. Rest in peace Blinkie.”
-Kian
"It's a weird feeling not knowing what or how it happened, but what I do know is how brilliant and excitable Jude was.
Jude was my rave mom AND dad. When I first entered the scene Jude was there. Every festival, every downtown show, every late weekend it always felt like we owned the place. He went to and supported alllll of my little DJ shows when I was learning the ropes and made sure there was someone on the dance floor at all times, the best kind of friend.
I loved that Jude also made sure everyone was always feeling good and safe. No matter the place, time or event, he was there asking people how they were, if they needed anything or just wanted to dance.
I vividly remember helping him host an event in Zilker Park called 'Raving for Hope' in which all the proceeds were given to charity and I just want to keep that idea alive. Raving for hope. That's what we do when there is none. When the world is cold and grey and it seems like there's nowhere to go - we rave. I'll never forget the good times we had under so many strobe lights.
Jude was a wild one in elevator boots, and now wild and free. Farewell friend.”
-JT
"I cannot believe this. Jude Deaux has passed away. Jude was one of the most important people I’ve ever met, please make no mistake.
All the memories. All the goofy festival adventures. Scorpion in the tent. Really difficult discussions about various topics that helped change my perspective. My first brisket. Buccee adventures. Over five years of friendship.
I’ll never forget him. “
-Pippin
“I can’t believe this is real.
The last time we spoke, I was going through a rough time and you reached out and listened to me. You didn’t judge me, you were patient and understanding. I kept telling myself that I’d see you again soon, you were so young so I thought we had all the time in the world and I was wrong so now I wish I could go back and tell you how much I appreciate you for being an amazing friend.
Rest In Peace Jude, thank you for everything ”
-Kristina
“Hey Jude,
I find it kind of funny, I find it kind of sad that I found out you were dead just fifteen minutes after I finished having your work redone by another. But you always appreciated life's ironies and jokes, whether they were the weird but innocuous variety or the massive, fucked up kind.
We bonded over having fibromyalgia and being disabled, over being ace and genderqueer, over a shared love for yugioh, over mental illness, over emo music and goth aesthetic. You were one of the few people who could beat me in the "how many medical problems do I have" game.
You were a great advocate for trans and disabled rights.
You deflowered my brown hair with bleach and helped me become more myself.
You were a complex and divisive person, but one whom I could never bring myself to dislike, even when I thought maybe I ought to.
I never felt closer to you than when we sang this song together, so I'll leave it here, for you.
I'm sad that you're gone, but I'm glad you're not suffering anymore.
Rest in power, friend.”
-Devin
“Rest in Peace Jude
You were such an amazing person, you’ll be missed by so many.
An amazing friend to have in your corner
A fantastic hair stylist to help you out
An all around amazing artist
We talked on many occasions, you taught me so much and helped me learn so many things over the years.
Your smile will definitely be missed in this world, now you’re another flowmie who’s watching over those of us left behind.
Shine bright love ”
-Anna-Mari
“RiP Jude Deaux you were a badass human and im glad we were friends and im glad we got to know each other and flow together.”
-Acissej
“Jude Deaux you were such an amazing person and touched so many people's hearts. You will be deeply missed. I can't believe this is happening. I'll always cherish the brief time I got to spend with you. I'm so sorry I never got to hang out with you one more time. I really hope you're at peace. I can't believe it. I really wanted to see you one more time.
I just don't understand any of this...
You were so young.“
-Mae
"Jude,
You were a person like no other. You burned thrice as bright, and you never thought you’d make it past 18. Considering that, you did well. But even though our relationship ended before you left, it still hurts knowing you’re gone so soon. Maybe the universe couldn’t tolerate the existence of someone as powerful, and rare, and beautiful as you.
“It’s trash can, not trash can not”
You were a catalyst who pushed people to be the best possible version of themselves. You encouraged me to follow my dreams, and reconnect with parts of myself I had lost. You changed me for the better in many ways. You also challenged me deeply – the times we spent together were often difficult for us both, and there are many things I wish had gone differently. But I will always cherish the time we spent together. I will keep those memories safe for the rest of my life.
“Fight it, take the pain ignite it”
You grew up under difficult circumstances, and you carried a lot of pain with you. But all that heat and pressure hardened you into a gleaming diamond. You managed to transmute your pain into an intense passion for the things and people you held dear. You were stubborn, uncompromising, and self-assured. You hated to be wrong, and you rarely were. You grew up fast, and learned to take an adversarial relationship towards life. You fought hard for what you believed in. It made you the most fiercely loyal person I’ve even met.
But eventually, life won. The darkness swallowed you up, and now you’re free of all the pain you found so easily. I hope you would be proud of the life you led. You meant a lot to so many people. I know I will never forget you. Bye bean.
Love,
Mason"
“Goodbye, friend. I didn't know you that well. But I'll cherish the times we spent together. Rest in peace you beautiful soul.”
-Martin
“We were friends for five years and and after four we met up in Indiana for Kinetic Fire Gathering. Out of our online group we had several people there and it really went to show how online friends are real. You gave me my undercut and got us out of the storm - after Alexa and I did a lot of the lifting in the middle of the night trying to beat the storm ♡ You were such an essential part of our crew and it's like we're on a boat without a paddle. I will really miss you.”
-Samantha
“My sweet young friend, I feel like I got to watch you grow up. How funny was it when we found out we lived in the same neighborhood all those years? I'll never forget our first road trip to Art Outside in 2014, and the family we made at that campsite. You had a knack in bringing people together I'll never forget. You owned your style, even just at 15, and I loved watching your passion for hair flourish. I wish we had kept better in touch these recent years, especially during your journey of identity, but I was proud you always knew how to champion yourself. You showed me that at our first Pride together. I write this now in hope you have found peace and rest after all the love you shared this precious life. Papa Bear will never forget you. ”
-Phil
"You were beautiful, intelligent, hilarious, tough as fuck, accepting and incredibly talented. From high school, to after, our chill sheshs at your place and running into each other at events, you were irreplaceable and I’m going to miss learning from you, Jude Deaux."
-Patricia
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-Cahn
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